Bade acche lagte hain….

Recently, I started watching this serial bade acche lagte hai.. Yeah i don’t watch hindi serials. But I watch this one. Point is not that, point is the tag line of a serial is ‘shaadi ke baad hote hote pyaar ho hi jaata hai’. Interesting, huh? It is definitely and purely talking about arrange marriage. But deep down when i think, why so? Then i get following reasons: is it not because, do u really have choice once you get married? Or do they really develope love between them? Whatever. But they do believe that since we live together now, we should love each other. Good enough until it creates problem.

When I see two different people getting married, frankly speaking I get confused. How the hell are they gonna adjust? What if they don’t at all like that person? What if nothings match between them? And most imp. what if they just want different things from life? Huh.. Do they really get all these questions? I mean when I see girls from my college who used to be very shy while talking to guys and never had any male friend getting married, I get whole lot of question bank in my head..!! First how do they response to such an instant change in their lives? What thinking goes behind taking such a difficult and important decision on their lives? Where is all shyness gone? I can narrow down few answers to these questions: 1. Parent pressure( may be) 2. They always wanted to talk to guys while in college but somehow they couldn’t. 3. They don’t have brains. 4. Physical attraction (natural). But all such girls are hypocrates and I hate them.

So main point is, if u are conditioned to adjust with particular person you start liking and eventually loving that person. ‘Insaan aadat ka gulaam hota hai’ and you get used to that person. And I find this totally unfair. I mean it is like, becuase you didn’t get what you like, you like what you get. :@
It is true once you start knowing that person you feel better and you enjoy that phase. But you should choose that person whom you want to know and be with.

I many times get a feeling after looking at many couples that they are togeter just coz a. Society b. Family c. Self- conscious(optional). If this was not the case then, we would never have had any extra marital affair in our family oriented India. Reasones may be any. And yes, divorce can happen in any damn couple where there is absence of trust, love, understanding & respect. So if all is well or infact if all become well after marriage then bade acche lagte hai couples will become rab ne bana di jodiyaan..

P.S. This is just one aspect of arrange marriage, there no thing as ideal marriage. You have to customize for yourself..

Mann ka raag

My spontaneous attempt to pen down few lines on my experience in hospital. How did i feel when i was in there… Thanks to my sweetheart friend sandeep das for motivating me to write this… Credit goes to him.

P.S: You can read / sing on the tunes of bhaag d k bose. Words are more or less tweaked, to suit my situation.

Doctor mujhse bola, tu patient hai meri
Tujhpe yeh dawai guilty hai meri
Sardi ke shakal me, lungs me nikla tere kaala daag daag daag…daag..

Bhaag mrudul bhaag mrudul bhaag bhaag mrudul bhaag…
Doctor aaya doc aaya doc aaya bhaag mrudul bhag…

Oh by god lag gayi, kya se kya hua.
Dekha toh insaan, zaanka toh haivaan
Piddi jaisa doctor, bhaav diya toh nikla kaala saand saand saand…

Bhaag mrudul bhaag mrudul bhaag…

Kisne mujhko loota, mera maatha kaise fata bhaiyya I have all the clue
Arey itna hi pata hai, peecche doctor jo pada hai, yaha toh rukna hoga bhool
Ek idea aayi hai, sandesa laayi hai
Bhaag mrudul bhaag mrudul…..

Mein toh hu normal, normal IQ aur wetan…zindagi jo office jao toh chale
Arey kismat ke hai vaande, accha doctor aur dhande donohi baat karo toh mile…

Yeh bheja garden hai aur tension maali hai…
Mann ka taanpura frustration chhede ek hi raag raag raag..

Bhaag mrudul bhaag mrudul bhaag…

Huh..!!! :-B

appearance might mislead you.

After boring you guys with that last depressing post, I decided not to go on the same track (and this is not just for sake of saying it, but I mean it.)
Ok, so let me ask some questions.

1) What is your definition of “first impression”? basically how do you define it?
2) Does appearance play major role(99.99%) in making an opinion about some person, I am sure it does.
2.a) If with prejudice mind, you make certain assumptions about the person in front of you (the one you just met), what are the chances that the outcome falls in the same range of what you have thought about him/her.?
2.b) How often do you go wrong in judging/analysing any person (to go by his appearance only)?

huh!! Answers to above questions are not unknown but similar with majority of people saying, YES! it does happen, whatever impression we have of other person, proves to be TRUE..:) good confidence!! But for me, most of the times, I tend to conclude wrong which questions my thinking pattern.

Now some of the traditional steps which we all follow to be able to comment on someone.

1) If the person is well dressed(here, it doesn’t mean, goddy or just flashy. for some well dressed=show off) ie. decently dressed then we tend to think–> a) might be well-educated b) well-mannered & behaved c) decent. (General thoughts)
2) If the person is poorly dressed (for me, it means..bad sense of dressing, not carrying oneself properly and absolutely pathetic choice of combinations) then at the first place, you don’t feel like having a conversation. That’s not your fault. You are made to think that way.

The whole point of, telling all this that I have found (most of the times, say 6/10) that appearances may mislead us from having actual impression. The origin of this whole scene started with a couple who come to our class for last few days. I would describe, girl in the couple first as she is more tolerable than the guy.

This girl, usually wears formal (trouser with horribly awful fit + dull shade shirt). Hair(shoulder long) is all semi-oily and loosely tied with a clucther. Looks, I would give 3/10 ( I am no one to judge but she is not that ( oh forget, not at all) great looking.) attitude, here comes the main thing, she has loads of attitude which can irritate any one (including guys too ) I just wonder, why the hell she thinks she is a super-duper person. (Great confidence though!!) I always gave her strange looks, which later I realised I should not.

Now something about the Guy- the hunk in the couple. He had typical maadu looks (no offence to anyone) with horrible dress sense. Though he wears checks (one of my favorites ), he doesn’t carry it well. plus icing on the cake is, he wears extra low waste jeans. (yukss…get a life or for god’s sake proper jeans, dude!) In my opinion, Don’t wear stuff which doesn’t suit you, lest you should be criticised.

With all this above description, what image did you have of those guys in your mind? not interested..hmmm? even I didn’t bother to think about them until sir asked us our scores. of all, he asked me my score first. I told him my score and he moved to ask THIS happening couple. I expected them to say their score not be spectacular at all. But to my astonishment, girl and guy told their score to be 130 and 150 respectively. I was awestruck, and perplexed!! I seriously couldn’t believe their scores. But then without wasting time I convinced myself, yaah You got to believe that.!!

I completely agree, one should not comment/judge/make an opinion about anyone from their appearance only and without knowing their ability. Getting marks is just a one thing but what thinking process follows behind coming to the conclusion is the main thing. Appearance makes only around 60% in actually telling how the person is!! So do not go by appearance, it can fool you.

absolutely superbored. :| :|

how does it feel when you are superbored I mean what do you usually do in such situation? you don’t feel like talking, chatting(ol), eating(that too chocolates), watching movies, reading(spare me for god’s sake ), looking at pictures(of yourself or others) or imagining your future etc.. I am in such a state of mind now, may be for a moment or say for a day but it’s getting on my nerves. I am not understanding what I am doing or what should I do to feel better. It’s like, I am TOTALLY saturated. I am bored of cribbing, thinking about the past and being pessimistic.

Now, this is for sure one abstract post. Sometimes, I feel, I know more than I should know and people around me are just far away from that which creates confusion. Then it ends up in either I am getting convinced that I am MAD or they(people) leaving the topic. Nothing interests me. don’t know what the problem is..!! I am sooo used to this life style that I don’t allow any change to it. I am closed in a one dark room where I have locked myself and blaming people for leaving me lonely.

What is worst thing can happen to a person who is confused and whose mind is playing game with her? F*** yaar, someone do tell me what should I do?? it’s so much fun but I am all sad. I am not able to enjoy…I try hard but fail miserably. Now I am tired of writing all this things also. I need a change very BADLY.. and some direction.

Master Blaster’s another splendid performance.

Yesterday ie. on 5th Nov 2009 Sachin Tendulkar achieved another milestone and made another record. In the history of world cricket he is the only batsman to score 30k+ runs in both forms of cricket, having scored maximum number of centuries in again both test and ODI. The statistics itself proves the caliber of him and we Indians are proud of having such a great player playing for our country, otherwise i don’t remember any other player(read: batsman) was proved a nightmare for bowling master Shane Warne Congrats Sachin!

Now lets move to the reality and the fact that even after scoring half the runs of total target, Sachin was not happy with the end result. Of course he is not to be blamed, he did his role and that too very well, but the point is- How would you feel when you give your 100% to the team, and when only 1% is remaining for win- your team members give up. This is not your fault. I think Sachin also had the same feeling. Of course, that was not the first time it happened. Personal achievements are fine but true player is happiest when his team win.
The attitude of Indian players have started to change and is becoming more positive- thanks to young, dynamic captain MS Dhoni. But still they are lacking somewhere. “Give up” is the feeling which comes to their mind in pressure situations. I think they just become dependent on the main players for eg: on Sachin in last (and most of the) match. When bowlers didn’t perform well and allowed aussies to score mammoth 350 runs, batsmen had to score, to win the match. Nowadays 350 can’t be called as the mammoth target as we have had seen teams achieving it.(highest being 434 by SA).

In my point, if any player is a bowler then he should be given- training to bat moderately too(of course they are given such training.) because when it comes to win the matches in last over, bowlers are the ones who are on the strike and playing. So it’s on them.  Batsmen lay the foundation, but winning stroke is from the down order batsmen(not in all situations but in most of the..)so basically they should know how to handle such situation like this and not to play as if they’re introduced to the game & spoiling everything (like in last match R Jadeja, got run out, trying to take run when there was not a run). They should self analyse.Because, Sachin won’t be there with them forever, team should understand this and take the responsibility equally. And opposite team know what Team India’s weak point is- get rid of the other players, Sachin alone can’t do anything.

On final note, Sachin is no doubt a great player but if other players in team start playing with 1% of commitment as he has towards team, India will rock.